On Tuesday evening about 40 women professionals in tech, alternative energy, non-profit, mobile, software and law, gathered in a sunny, beige conference room in Palo Alto for the quarterly GABA Women in Business event series, to share stories about "nontraditional" negotiating.
Some were in business for themselves, some worked for Bay Area companies, large and small, and nearly everyone was multinational.
Helena told her story about salary negotiation in the legal industry and advised on starting a negotiation by getting to know the other person first; Beate encouraged the audience to challenge assumptions and approach negotiation as creating something with the other person; Daniela is right in the middle of a negotiation together with one other woman against a group of men; Susie just negotiated a job that beat out the undercut bid and she still got paid to design the opening of a high-end bar in Santa Rosa; Kristen, daughter of a "radical [Iranian] man" who told her she's equal to any man, noticed that the women resent her for making change together with male CEOs at companies she consults for; Alexandra asked how to deal with a Persian male negotiator who wants to "put the birka on her;" another woman earned the trust of her male Japanese colleague after they went out drinking together; and Barb told the group about how she came up with the topic and ended up hosting the group that night.
I organized the event because I saw the need for internationally-minded women professionals, in any industry, to come together as a group to share their stories and learn from the professional experiences of others. I want to build a community professional and personal development. And because cross-cultural means people coming together to do really cool things.
All the times I heard from successful women at FWE&E, NAWBO, and PWBC were great; but it's even better to connect with a woman who has a success of hers, to share with me. The stories shared that evening were about power and control, techniques about preparedness, and the emotions involved with everything, but what resonated with me the most is that negotiating as women means negotiating as PEOPLE -- remembering that we are each human, after all.